You can check out Part 1 here.
I hope you spent the week building your list. You should have at least twenty or thirty items that you enjoy doing or things that are important to you. These things can be considered your values. You might have coffee, family and swimming as a couple of items on your list. If you haven’t made the list, I strongly recommend you go back to the first post and spend the week creating your list. You aren’t helping yourself by skipping ahead and making assumptions. Take the time to live a week in your life and really think about what matters to you. You might find yourself removing a few things throughout the week. Sometimes you add something to the list and realize later it’s not important to you. Don’t force anything.
Now I want you to take the list and draw a line on the right side, making a column. On the right side, I want you to write a number based on how important that item is to you. You’re working with a scale of 1 – 10 with 10 being something you can’t do without regularly. Your coffee might be a 9 and that means it’s incredibly important for you, especially first thing in the morning. Your family might be a 10 and swimming might be a 6.
Rewrite the list, placing all the 10’s at the top and 9’s below that. Keep going until you have all the items listed from most important to least important.
Take your top 10 items and look them over a few times. Think about them throughout the week and in a few days, rewrite those 10 items if needed. You’ll want to list them from 1 – 10 with 1 being the most important.
What you have created with this is a list of your priority values and it can help steer you toward your goals. With the remaining days in the week (if it took you three days to reorder your list of top 10 values, use the remaining days) make a list of activities that you enjoy that fits into your top 10 values. If you have coffee, family and swimming in your top 10, then going to the beach with your family once a week and taking swimming lessons on your own time might work out well. Consider becoming a more competitive swimmer or triathlete and getting your kids involved in the kid’s competitions. We’ll talk about how to prioritize activities based on scheduling, etc. in Part 3 when I discuss pain and pleasure or fight or flight.